Beware the mention of natural causes, as in my mother's obituary:
"Norita Wyse Berman, a writer, stockbroker and artist ... died at home Friday of natural causes. She was 60."
Sixty-year-olds don't die of natural causes anymore. The truth was too hard to admit.
Fifteen years on, I'm ashamed of my family's shame. Those attending her funeral and paying shiva calls knew the truth anyway. People talk.